The french philosopher Michel Foucault, once said that in Victorian society, the repression of sexuality was just another way of bringing sexuality to the forefront of our consciousnesses. I am in complete agreement with this. Nothing is harder than not thinking about sex when someone tells you that the one thing you cannot think about, is sex. Oh, to have lived in Victorian society.
It really is an advanced erotic seduction technique..
Which is one of the reasons that "stop orders" from a Top can be incredibly hard to follow. Once something is made off limits to the mind, for some reason it is all the mind wants to think about. "You will not touch yourself for the next x-amount of hours" suddenly becomes "you will think about nothing but touching yourself for the next x-amount of hours". It makes the bottom's job that much harder.
On one hand you have your own pleasure to consider, do you take your desires into your own hands and damn the consequences? On the other hand you have the admiration and love from your Top to think about, is it worth it to anger the one who commanded you for one minute of release?
The struggle between decisions can seem unbearable, but I think in the end most bottom's would tell you that they got through by resigning themselves to the fact that their Top's happiness is much more important than their own pleasure. It isn't fear of punishment, but a desire for acceptance and pride that propels the submissive forward.
At least I think that is what the normal and healthy course of emotion should be..
